Philemon is a touching story of the conversion and transformation of a runaway slave, and Paul’s attempt to successfully reunite him with his master. Philemon was the injured party, as his slave had forsaken him and fled. Paul had met the slave while in prison and after sharing the Gospel with him, he was gloriously saved.

Paul knew that in order for his spiritual growth to continue unhindered, he would have to make things right with his master. It was to that end that Paul wrote a letter to accompany the slave. It began with an uplifting, cordial recognition of Philemon’s faithful testimony for Christ. He had opened his home for a church to meet, and was likely one of its leaders.

As an apostle, Paul held spiritual authority over the churches. He knew that he could demand that Philemon receive his slave, but he thought better of using force. He instead chose to reach out with grace. His letter said in…

Philemon 1:8 Wherefore, though I might be much bold in Christ to enjoin thee that which is convenient,
9 Yet for love's sake I rather beseech thee, being such an one as Paul the aged, and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ.

Paul declared that he could be bold in his position before the Lord, and enjoin him (meaning to charge or command) Philemon to take his slave back, seeing that course of action would be the proper thing to do as a Christian.

He chose rather to show love to Philemon, not commanding him, but ‘beseeching’ him. The word is used to describe the work of the Holy Spirit of inviting, pleading with, or comforting. In essence, Paul was gently and humbly trying to get Philemon to do that which would best soothe his spirit, and put him in a position of spiritual blessing.

Paul referred to his advanced age in appealing to Philemon. As an old man, in prison for the cause of Christ, Paul had little time and tolerance for wasting relationships. He was intent in seeing the right thing accomplished for both Philemon and his slave. Paul’s motives were pure, and he was desirous that Philemon see his heart in the matter.

Paul demonstrated to us the ideal manner in dealing with people needing to make a spiritual decision. Love was, and must always be, the motivator behind any effort to effect a change. People are easily offended, and if they perceive any pride or judgmentalism, they will immediately become resistant to everything you try.

When you are burdened over a need you see in another’s spiritual life, begin by praying for them. Then, proceed to show them much love and grace as you humbly share with them your concern.

At that point, you must leave the results to the Lord, faithfully praying for them to make the right decision.